Zyrel's "10 Batas Para Sa Bayaning OFW" spelled out the OFW soul's code. There are those among us who live as if they are the only inhabitants on earth, without care and respect on their fellow human beings. "Masagasaan na ang masagasaan, wala akong pakialam" seems to be their own selfish rule. This world's a lot better place if we could just subscribe to Zyrel's "10 Batas" and not hold on to the I-me-mine-myself attitude (an egoist's I-sight) we could be carrying around. We race ourselves to the top, raise ourselves up, but trample on some fellows in the process.
Sometimes, we're best heard when we stay "low" and not act as if we're high and mighty; stay gentle and not tyrannical; speak softly and not loud and screaming. Throwing our weight around, looking down our noses on anyone is the sort of attitude that will alienate us from everyone. When we're sensitive to other people's needs, we gain more respect. We get pushy and bossy and we sure will drive away the people around us.
The third law -- Iwasan ang pagiging makasarili -- brings us back to Ed Roquel's article "Panloloko" in October 2008. People tend to put material things above relationships. For the love of money, they use people. Should we not love people and use money, not the other way around? Many relationships have been ruined by money issues. Wala ng kai-kaibigan o kama-kamag-anak pagdating na sa pera. Friendships take the back seat. Materialism has taken precedence to what's much more essential -- human relationship.
"Maging magandang ehemplo sa iba," according to Zyrel. If you are a leader, what sort of example are you setting for your members? Do you lift their spirits up or do you crush their self-esteem just to make a point? Can you hold the group together or you simply let the group break apart? If you see yourself above everyone, there's no way that anyone can genuinely connect with you. It would be like treading on an egg shell communicating with a leader with a big ego. We make simple and innocent statements and we could be stepping on sensitive toes and feelings. How free could my thoughts be when talking to you if you are my leader? You build barriers, I keep my distance... that's the kind of attitude a leader gets from the members when something is utterly wrong with the leadership. Trust and respect is missing there.
There are unwritten rules in any relationship. An open heart and an open mind know just how to figure it all out.
Time to reflect on your soul's code...
Author: Joy Marqueses
*Published in True Friends Newsmag (January 2009 issue)
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